Going through a divorce during the holidays can be difficult enough as it is. However, when you add kids to the equation, it can be extra rough. Kids make the holidays extra special, and you may be used to picture-perfect Christmas mornings and traditions together as a family. Now you’re a single parent navigating the holidays alone while going through a divorce.
Instead of letting the holiday blues get you down, however, there are ways to make the best out of your situation. It may not be ideal, but it doesn’t have to leave you feeling blue. Here are some of the best tips for surviving the holidays as a newly single parent.
Plan With Plenty Of Time To Spare
Since likely both you and your ex will want to spend time with the kids much as possible during the holidays you will both need to plan out the logistics ahead of time. Don’t wait until the last minute to organize who will take the kids when.
As early on as possible, you should plan a schedule for the winter break. If you communicate specific times and schedules, you’ll be much less likely to find yourself in an awkward argument in front of the family.
Change Up the Atmosphere
You may have a lot of pain associated with Christmas if you are in the same place where you used to spend the day together with the whole family. It may take some time to adjust to your new identity on your own.
It may help to change up where you celebrate Christmas this year. Rather than mourning over lost traditions, embrace new ones. Forget about things going perfectly, and focus on making the experience the best possible for the kids.
Anticipate Potential Emotional Outbursts
It may be difficult for your kids to adjust to Christmas without the entire family as well. Don’t be surprised if someone breaks down in tears at some point. It’s better to let your feelings out rather than push them down.
If one of the kids starts to act up, let them know that how they’re feeling is normal. Reassure them that it will get better over time even though things may be difficult right now.
Don’t Put Pressure On Your Finances
You may be eager to make Christmas as perfect as possible for your children despite the divorce. However, don’t over-do it on your bank account. Some parents make the mistake of buying way too many things in hopes of trying to compensate for the guilt that they may be feeling.
Don’t show your love with things, but with your love by creating memories that your children will cherish forever.