What is Success and How Do You Achieve It?

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Success. What does it mean?

16-year-old me thought it was owning multiple fancy cars, a huge home, designer clothes and taking exotic vacations. It wasn’t until I sat down for a talk with my sister’s husband a few months before I graduated from high school that I started looking at success differently.

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I look up to him; he started his own company when he was younger and never once gave up on HIS dreams and goals. He also didn’t have any help — he didn’t come from old money and didn’t have any mentors.

He and my sister had (and still have) a life that I deemed “a successful one,” and to me, anything less than what they had was failure. As a teenager, it intimated me. I now know better.

I’m about to share with you the secret to success. This is exactly what my brother-in-law taught me when I was just a teenager. It took quite a few years to sink in, but I’m now 25 and I think it’s time to share:

1. Define Success For Yourself

In the end, success is turning your dreams into a reality. Whether you want to be a teacher, doctor, lawyer, hair stylist or a baseball player, if you turn that one thing into a reality, you are a success. Leave your bank account out of it — we’ll get to that next.

2. Success Isn’t Money

That was hard for me to grasp at first. Not everyone is meant to be the CEO of a company. Base your success off your own needs and happiness, and not your paycheck.

A very good friend of mine always wanted to be a high school English teacher, and so she went to school to do just that. She’s now a full-time teacher and loves it! She knew from the start that she’d never make anywhere near six digits a year, but followed her dreams. Now, in my eyes, and hers, she is successful.

3. Find Your Strengths

What are you good at? Whatever you’re naturally good at should give you an idea what you should be doing with your life. Are you socially gifted and can befriend anyone? Then, maybe you should consider a career in PR or social media. Are you best at arguing and properly making your point? Maybe you should be a lawyer. Do you enjoy fixing or making things? Perhaps you should be a developer or a mechanic. Discovering and refining your skills takes time, but it’s well worth it in the end if you love your job.

4. Figure out What You Want out of Life

This is the hardest one. You need to determine your goals.

Ask yourself: where you want to be in five years? What type of car would you like to drive? Do you want kids? Do you want to live someplace new? Do you want a degree?

Write all of that down on paper, and then ask yourself what type of life you’d like to be living in twenty years.

5. Establish Long-term and Short-term Goals

Once you know what you want out of life, figure out how to get there. In order to accomplish your goals, it’s easiest to separate them into two categories: long-term and short-term goals.

Short term goals can be achieved in a year or less. Examples: Get fit, finish your first year of college, save $1,000, or buy a car.

Long term goals take 1 to 5 years to complete. Examples: Graduate from college, save $20,000, get a teaching job, get married, and have children.

Set an ultimate goal for every decade. It’s also okay to change your goals over time. For me, my move to NYC changed my life. I came here to become a freelance hairstylist and now I’m doing something completely different. That’s life. Embrace your inner growth.

6. Follow Your Own Dreams

Success is accomplishing the goals that you’ve set for yourself — not the goals others have set for you.

Follow a career path because you feel it’ll lead you to your dream job. If you’re following a specific path because it’ll make your parents happy…you’re setting yourself up for unhappiness down the road. It’s your life, not theirs.

7. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others

Life is not a race. Everyone advances at different times. Comparing yourself with someone else will drive you crazy.

For example, graduating from college is an awkward time. Some recent grads find their dream jobs right out of school, while others can’t find even a mediocre job for months. Your time to shine will happen.

Do your best, because that’s all you can do. If you aren’t doing your best, then take time to re-evaluate yourself and your goals for a fresh start. Once you stop expecting complete perfection, life will become easier and way more fun!

8. Be Happy with What You Have at Every Stage

I used to always complain about my apartment, my car, my job…when I should have just been happy with what I had at that stage of my life.

Success is a journey, and not a destination. If you’re achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself, then you’re doing just fine!

9. Don’t Act Better Than Anyone Else

Don’t look down on your friends who still haven’t figured it out or who are living a life you’d personally dislike. If they are happy with themselves, then they’re a success. Don’t judge them, especially if you don’t know their goals. If you don’t think they’re happy, encourage them to follow their dreams. You can only get so far being mean and judgmental.

On that note: Don’t look down on people who have a job you’d deem “embarrassing,” such as a waiter or waitress, or the person who makes your latte every morning. That person could be the next Julia Roberts or Mark Zuckerberg.

10. Evaluate Yourself Every Year

Once a year, stand in front of a mirror and evaluate yourself. Do you have a bad habit you want to break? Are you happy with what you’ve accomplished in the past 12 months? Want to change anything? Evaluating yourself and figuring out your personal flaws (and achievements) will help you grow into a well-rounded person.

11. Know It’s Never Too Late

Maybe you weren’t very proactive during your college years, or maybe your twenties didn’t turn out how you thought they would. It’s okay. You can rethink your dreams and goals at any stage.

Whether you’re 20 or 70, it’s never too late.

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I really hope these tips help you be the best “you” that you can be!

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Tis The Season For…Boots?

Posted 2 years ago by

You bet! Now is the perfect time to stock your wardrobe for Winter 12/13.

Off season shopping is a great way to save on quality boots and coats so you won’t have to resort to the cheap and un-warm variety when the time come again this October. You could score a nice coat that was originally over $200 for under $50, or a cute pair of quality boots under $30!

Unfortunately, you won’t be able to wear them until the weather allows for it again but the amount you’ll save will be worth it. Since it’s not 100% warm yet you could even break in your new boots so you won’t have to go through a blister filled September!

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Just make sure you stick to the basics. A quality black peacoat won’t be out of style next season (I promise!) However, a black and white tweed one might!

Great Online Finds

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Happy Shopping!

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1 Girl, 2 Outfits: Primary Colors Vs. Black Mini Skirts

Posted 2 years ago by

Our first 1 Girl, 2 Outfits features B&C fashionistas in primaries and black mini skirts! Check out the details below:

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Left:

  • Cardigan: $15 J. Crew Outlet
  • Lace Top: $12 Forever 21
  • Red Jeans: $58 Urban Outfitters
  • Boots: $230 Steve Madden

Right:

  • Top: $20 Forever 21
  • Levi’s Made & Crafted Jeans: $20 Brooklyn Denim Co. (employee discount)
  • Shoes: $90 Aldo

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Left:

  • Sweater: $40 American Apparel
  • Skirt: $10 Rainbow
  • Tights: $14 American Apparel
  • Boots: $100 Aldo

Right:

  • Top: $29 Zara
  • Skirt: $20 h&m
  • Tights: $14 American Apparel
  • Boots: $70 Steve Madden

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Broke Fashion #35

Posted 3 years ago by

♥ Broke Fashion is a series by B&C that shows off stylish people on a budget!

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Advice from a Seasoned Thrifter

Posted 3 years ago by

Natalie Garza–the savvy fashionista from The Closet de Natalie, is here to teach you how to thrift. With her one-of-a-kind thrift finds mixed with her one-of-a-kind outfits, we felt there was no one better for the job.

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How it all got started: I started thrifting back in high school, because I was obsessed with finding and wearing cool vintage t-shirts. When I first moved to Austin for college, I was so inspired by all the great style around me that I became confident enough to experiment with my own style.

I started thrifting regularly, because it was the only way I could afford to shop as much as I wanted without going broke. I quickly learned that thrift stores were the best places to find truly unique items that no one else had. I received so many compliments on my thrifted and unique outfits that I started my own personal style blog, The Closet de Natalie, to show everyone that it’s entirely possible to look chic for cheap. I’ve become such a huge advocate of buying thrifted and secondhand clothing whenever possible.

♥ Natalie recently started another blog promoting, buying and wearing secondhand clothing in Austin, Texas–Recycled & Reworn.

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Some of the things I’ve learned during my experience as a determined thrifter:

1. Check Your Closet: Before you even leave your home to go shopping, look into your closet just to get a refresher of what you already have. Most of us have so much stuff, we often forget what we have and don’t have. It will also remind you of what you’ve been wanting to add to your wardrobe so you can look for it at the thrift store.

2. Know You Will Have to Dig: In a thrift store, you have to literally look through entire rows of clothing to find those hidden treasures. It’s not like walking into a retail clothing store where your eye is automatically drawn to the well-merchandised display showing you exactly what’s in style.

3. Don’t Go Thrifting Tired: You’ll need energy to make it through the many racks or bins. I usually drink a small coffee or latte on the way for a little energy boost!

4. Know Your Size: Measure your favorite items of clothing that fit really well to have a visual idea of what sizes to look for. Sizing can be a little weird in thrift stores, so it helps if you can eyeball your approximate size.

Remember: Many thrift stores don’t have dressing rooms.

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5. Have an Open Mind: Go into a thrift store with an open mind and without any expectations. One of the most exciting things about thrifting is that you never know what you are going to find.

6. Don’t Impulse Buy: Don’t let the luring low prices cause you to make bad choices. Try imagining everything you’re about to buy as already a part of your wardrobe. What outfits can you create with a thrift find, using what’s already in your closet? If you have to buy something else just to wear it… put it down.

7. Do an Item Check: Check over everything before you buy it. Look for stains and tears, check zippers and buttons, and even sniff for weird smells. Don’t forget to wash everything before you wear it!

8. Have Fun: Any sort of shopping can be fun! Bring a friend and make a day of it. Try stopping by every single thrift store your town or city has. Not only will you find amazing one-of-a-kind items, you’ll be surprised by all the money you’ll save!

♥ The next time you go shopping, I hope you’ll consider stopping by a thrift store before the mall. I promise it will be worth it!

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“Goodwill is one of my favorite thrift stores. Wearing thrifted shoes ($5), thrifted blouse ($2), Zara jeans ($50), thrifted purse ($8), and Ray-Ban sunglasses I’ve had for four years ($125).”

Still need help?  Check out one of my posts “How I Thrift” on Recycled & Reworn, or feel free to e-mail me specific questions. I’ll try to offer suggestions on how to have a more successful thrift store experience. T: @nataliebgarza, E: nataliebgarza@gmail.com

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Steal Her Look: Pippa Middleton’s White Lace Dress

Posted 3 years ago by

Don’t you love seeing celebs in outfits you can actually afford? Of course you do! Pippa was spotted on the streets of London rocking a beautiful white lace dress from h&m. The best part…it only cost her $35.00!

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Steal Her Look: Lea Michele’s ASOS Dress

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Glee star Lea Michele was spottod on the red carpet wearing a blue lace dress from ASOS.com, steal her exact look for only $53.91!

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Grab it here!

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Get The Look For Less: BillyKirk for Opening Ceremony

Posted 3 years ago by

There is no denying it, the BillyKirk x Opening Ceremony collection this past spring was amazing. The playful red-white-and-blue palette was just enough spice to make any outfit pop! But with a $290.00 price tag, one has to say “ouch.”

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Is there a cheaper way? Of course there is, Broke & Chic is here to save the day! The bag below was found at H&M for only $35. H&M is a life saver yet again.

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When is the Best Time to Buy a Bathing Suit?

Posted 3 years ago by

Right now! Fall is just a few short weeks away, meaning swimming season is just about over. Stores are trying to get rid of anything summer related to make room for fall attire. You can now buy a quality $80 dollar suit for next to nothing (50% to 75% off). The better the quality, the longer it’ll last. Check out Kohl’s, Macy’s, Everything But Water and Nordstrom’s.

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If you’re to impatient and can’t wait the 8 months to wear your suit, try going to H&M, Target or Old Navy when it starts getting warm again. They have the cutest suits for a great price, but they’ll only last you one season.

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