Toxic Relationships: 7 Signs You’re on the Receiving End of Narcissistic Abuse

Posted July 23, 2020 by in Health + Fitness
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Victims of narcissistic abuse find their entire reality has been distorted as a result of the abuse. Narcissists use a variety of tactics, including manipulation and gaslighting, to keep their victims under their control, and the impact on the victim remains even when the relationship has ended.

PTSD affects many of these survivors, as they have been subjected to disrespect, invalidation, mistreatment, and more. The following are signs of narcissistic abuse every person must be aware of:

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Dissociation

Victims of narcissistic abuse often engage in mind-numbing activities or obsessions as a means of escaping from their current reality. Addiction remains a problem for these individuals because their brain needs a way to block the pain and avoid facing the seriousness of their circumstances.

The physical or emotional detachment allows them to cope in a horrific situation. Evolve In Nature Psychotherapists help these individuals regain control of their lives and overcome the abuse they have experienced.

Constant Fear

A victim of narcissistic abuse tends to walk on eggshells at all times. They watch what they say and do to avoid the wrath of the narcissist, much as victims of physical violence do.

Sadly, they eventually come to the realization that the abuser continues to target them regardless of their words or actions. They cannot please this individual and it begins to affect other relationships in their life as well.

Sacrificing Basic Needs

Narcissists always put themselves first. As a result, victims of their abuse tend to put aside their own basic needs in an effort to please their abuser. Sadly, doing so won’t be enough to make the narcissist happy, but the victim continues to try.

Health Issues

Individuals in a relationship with a narcissist often struggle with health issues arising from their psychological turmoil.

Premature aging is not uncommon in these victims, and the immune system remains weak due to high levels of cortisol in the body. Insomnia plagues many, due to the trauma they have been through, as well.

Self-Isolation

Although it is true abusers often isolate their victims, the victim might also self-isolate as they are ashamed to admit they are in a bad relationship. To avoid being judged by others, the victim might self-isolate. Sadly, society often blames the victim, including the victim’s close friends and family due to the self-isolation. 

Narcissists are very good at alienating you from your friends and family; the people you need in your life the most. 

Fear of Success

Narcissists don’t want others to succeed and take away from their glory. As a result, they punish loved ones who achieve success by teaching them to associate good things related to success with negative repercussions. Over time, the victim quits striving for success to avoid these repercussions.

Not only do narcissists try to limit the success of their victim, they often talk poorly about about all people doing better than them in their endeavors. Often times, these people are those that matter to you most (like your friends and family), which is one way the abuser is able to alienate you from your loved ones.

Self-Harm

Depression, anxiety, and hopelessness leave victims of narcissistic abuse wondering where to turn and how to stop the pain. Many feel they will never be able to do so and choose to harm themselves or commit suicide to obtain relief.

Individuals who are the victim of intimate partner violence have a significantly higher rate of multiple suicide attempts. Sadly, these individuals are allowing the abuser to commit murder without actually having to get their hands dirty.

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If you recognize one or more of these signs in your own life, it’s time to seek outside help. You can get away from the abuser and overcome the trauma you have experienced at this person’s hand. I have personally been a victim of narcissistic abuse. You are not alone. You can leave. You can find peace. 

The first step is reaching out for this help. Do so today, as you have a better life waiting for you, one where you can be happy and engage in healthy relationships with others. Believe me, it can get better, and it will. ❤️

Someday, I will share my personal experience with narcissistic abuse, until then, I hope these tips help.

xoxo,

Amanda