With weddings comes a lot of pressure to keep with tradition. Don’t mistake traditions, though, with common myths. According to Country Club Receptions wedding planning consultants, here are four wedding myths that can be dispelled.
1. You Need Equal Numbers of Bridesmaids and Groomsmen
You may consider it ideal to have the same number of groomsmen standing up as you do bridesmaids, but it is not necessary. Don’t add people who you do not consider your nearest and dearest simply because you want even numbers. The wedding party should be comprised of your closest supporters.
If you are concerned about the procession, it is perfectly acceptable to have a bridesmaid walk in with a reader, or a groomsmen walk in with a vocalist or other person of significance. It’s not unheard of to have one groomsman or bridesmaid flanked by two from the other side. Avoid pairing altogether by have groomsmen stand up front and bridesmaids walk in on their own.
2. Hire Friends First
So your friend is a photographer so it only makes sense to hire him or her for your wedding, right? This is an emphatic no. Worrying about stepping on toes during such a monumental event can strain relationships.
Hire professionals who can outline exactly what you will be provided as well as costs for each. It is better to pay full price for services than risk being disappointed and not having any recourse for fear of jeopardizing the relationship.
Just let friends know you’d prefer to have them in the audience enjoying the day with you, instead!
3. You Have to Wear White
Once upon a time, it was unheard of to wear anything but white as a bride. Today, however, it’s not uncommon to see wedding dresses with not only color to them, but also patterns. Go as bold or demure as you prefer; this is a day that should be all about you and your groom.
Keep in mind that bridesmaid dresses and others in the wedding party might need a bit more attention to ensure they are properly coordinated.
Sofía Sanchez Barrenechea’s off-beat wedding gown
4. You Can’t Afford a Wedding Planner
You may think wedding planners are reserved for high society nuptials or those with cash to burn. This is not the case. If you’re considering having even a few bells and whistles, it can save you money to go to a wedding planner. It is their job to know how to procure services and products on a budget. They are often well networked and likely have access to discounts with local business that you don’t, which can be passed on to their clients.
Don’t let others’ expectations and traditions get in the way of choosing the wedding you truly want. As with your marriage, follow your heart and make the day about you and your groom.
When I was planning my wedding my husband and I kept having an argument over the wedding party. He insisted on having eight groomsmen! I don’t even like eight people! It was a constant issue!