5 Dangers to Your Relationship You Might Not See Coming

Posted November 18, 2022 by in Lifestyle
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Many people have experienced a relationship that ended without apparent reason. There were no clearance issues, red flags, or major warning signs. Something just felt off…and it didn’t improve.

Some dangers to a relationship manifest in an ambiguous form. Even if there isn’t something wrong, it’s crucial to be aware of what simply does not feel right. Here are five dangers to a relationship that people rarely anticipate.

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1. Different eating habits

If their eating habits are very different from yours, that might end up being a problem. One is always busy in the kitchen or fawning over 24Kitchen, while the other doesn’t feel life revolves around food. You might have tried dieting together, and it seemed like a good idea at first, but ultimately, it went downhill. This is no coincidence. Research has shown that the more successful one partner is at eating healthy, the less likely the other one becomes to control their food intake.

Why does this happen? When people aim to achieve a goal, being close to someone who is able to achieve it makes the other person less confident in their abilities.

Are your eating habits similar? You’re still not safe. Studies have determined a positive correlation between marriage and weight gain. 

2. Unobvious signs you might cheat

There are some behaviors that don’t traditionally classify as infidelity but have some aspects of it, like secrecy and dishonesty toward the partner. These can hurt your relationship even though they seem insignificant. 

An example is microcheating, an act of trivial yet inappropriate behavior manifesting outside the relationship. There is no sex, which is why many don’t consider it cheating, but it does breach a couple’s boundaries, trust, and norms in other ways. It can result in issues down the line, although it doesn’t always have an affair as the end result.

This type of cheating can lead to emotional cheating when someone secretly engages in an intimate but non-sexual relationship with another person. Emotional affairs can start with small actions like lunch with an ex or sharing personal information with someone you have a crush on. These actions lead to the risk that something deeper will emerge. They can turn into real cheating if done repeatedly.

3. Indifference

Constant arguing and fights are an obvious red flag, but so is not caring enough to argue. Maybe you feel too tired to raise a disagreement or a concern with your partner. You might be upset about something, but you just don’t want to talk about it. You feel it’s best to leave it unsaid.

Being unmotivated to work on or improve the relationship can mean you’ve lost interest in it. In this case, people ultimately break up.

4. Fantasies about being single again

When you see a friend excited about their first date or going on an exotic vacation alone, you might feel a bit jealous, and that’s normal. What’s not normal is fantasizing about being single all the time. It might mean you’re not willing to be in this relationship anymore. Whether there are other red flags or not is irrelevant. 

People in this situation feel like their partner is stopping them from making their dreams come true. You might want to be with them, but you feel compelled to choose between them and exciting social life, a career, or another thing you want.

This can be quite a dilemma because all relationships involve some compromise. If you want a lasting relationship, though, you shouldn’t feel they’re holding you back. The relationship needs to feel like you are building the life you both want.

5. Constant irritation

Everything they do irritates you. The way they talk with their mouth full, their phone never stops ringing, they leave a puddle on the floor after getting out of the bathtub, etc. A relationship where everything about them frustrates you is not healthy. Of course, you can always tell them something is bugging you. However, you’re not the one to blame if the irritation is insurmountable.

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