The last time you were out in public, you may have spotted someone who seemed to strut with a high level of confidence. But how do you know if it was genuine? Or if they were trying to “fake it till they make it”?
It is possible to spot someone with a positive sense of self-esteem. Though a single behavior or trait may not be enough to say for sure.
To help you weed out the real deals, let’s look at 9 signs of someone with positive self-esteem.
- Don’t Compare Themselves to Others
Comparing yourself to others is all about the ego. People with low self-esteem, insecurities, and fear let their egos take over, telling them they’re better than others or not good enough.
But people with positive self-esteem know that everybody is equal. They celebrate in their friends’ successes and don’t see it as a reflection on their own lives.
Positive self-esteem leaves you feeling happy with who you are. That means you can then have the freedom to feel happy for others, without letting your ego overshadow those feelings.
- Take Chances
We feel good about ourselves when we have success. Yet, success can sometimes involve taking scary risks and not having a certain path to follow.
People with positive self-esteem have a healthy self-regard when it comes to taking chances. This makes them able to move forward with their goals, even in the face of the unknown.
Some of the biggest regrets in life are over the things we didn’t try or were too afraid to continue. Someone with healthy self-esteem knows that they will be ok, even if they fail, because they had the courage to try.
- Don’t Put up with Toxic People
People with low self-esteem put up with mistreatment from others, usually because they feel they deserve it. On the flip side, people with positive self-esteem know they deserve respect and are not afraid to walk away from those who don’t give it.
Healthy relationships don’t involve abuse, manipulation, and toxic behaviors. A low self-esteem can make someone believe they have done something to cause this. They might even feel they have to stick around to make the situation better.
But someone with a positive self-esteem knows better. They’ll only surround themselves with people who share the same level of respect and values they have.
- Care About Their Physical Health and Appearance
When you have positive self-esteem, you value yourself. And when you value yourself, you’ll care about your physical health and well-being.
This means a person will keep their appearance up to a healthy standard. They won’t engage in destructive behavior such as drug or heavy alcohol use. Plus, they’ll walk tall, not cower or keep their head down.
Neglecting to take care of themselves is a sign of refusing to take responsibility for the quality of their life. That’s something a person with positive self-esteem would never do.
- Face Reality Without Fear
When something goes wrong in life, some people choose to stay at rock bottom. To wait for someone else to save them.
A person with positive self-esteem, however, will face challenges head on. They will understand they have the power to turn their situation around for the better. And they’ll learn more ways of how to improve to benefit their own lives.
People with high self-esteem may not like when things don’t go right, but they don’t wallow in it. They will accept what happened and do their best to turn a wrong into a right.
- Get Close to Others
True intimacy is allowing others to get to know our authentic selves. People with positive self-esteem feel it’s ok to let others see themselves for who they truly are.
It can be scary to open up and let others get to know us. If we have low self-esteem, we could feel like we don’t measure up and think it’s too vulnerable to let others get close.
Low self-esteem will even cause many to pursue relationships fiercely, for the need to feel wanted. But these shallow relationships won’t have the level of true intimacy that people of positive self-esteem will bring to the table.
When you feel good about yourself, standing up for your thoughts and opinions is easy. You’re not worried what others will say or think. Positive self-esteem allows you to value different viewpoints, so you don’t feel the need to be like everyone else.
A low self-esteem leaves someone much more inhibited. Instead of voicing their own thoughts, they try to conform to everyone else’s way of thinking. Being well-liked and avoiding confrontation is much better than having their own opinion.
Having their own voice lets others recognize the authenticity of someone with positive self-esteem.
- Responsible for Their Own Emotions
Someone with a low self-esteem will find it easy to blame others when something is wrong. Whether they’re sad, angry, or frustrated, they don’t want to take responsibility for the part they play in their own emotional situation.
You won’t find that in someone with positive self-esteem. They believe that they’re the only person who can control their emotions. They’re the only ones who can control their happiness, as well as the only ones who can control how they react to a bad situation.
When you have positive self-esteem, your happiness comes from within, regardless of who comes in or out of your life.
- Learn from Their Mistakes
We’ve all known a bitter, untrusting person. They may have sworn off all men because one person hurt them. Or quit trying to make a new business succeed because their first attempt failed.
But people with positive self-esteem try to use past mistakes or failures as learning tools for the present. They don’t let a past hurt stop them from finding the love of their life or landing the career they’ve always dreamed of.
Instead, a positive person will keep going, seeing things in more than black and white. They will see the possibilities.
Hold Your Head High with Positive Self-Esteem
Sure, it’s normal to feel worried or sad from time to time. But people with positive self-esteem won’t let it hold them down for long. And with these tips, you now know what how to spot the real deal.
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