Being Better At The Dating Game: A Guide To Build Lasting Relationships

Posted March 25, 2021 by in Lifestyle

Though finding a date is not that difficult, making that date turn into a lasting relationship could be for some people.

Research suggests that on average people date others, at least, half the number of their age before they decide to settle down. In other words, if someone is 30, they might have dated around 15 people before they found the one they decided to settle down with.

Amazing! Isn’t it?

However, for many people, this could be disengaging or disheartening. Well, in most cases, people wish to find the love of their life at the first sight. Although it is not entirely possible for everyone, there could be some exceptions.

In this article, we will discuss some of the tested and tried tricks to help you build a long-lasting relationship.

Start Dating With A Motive

When it comes to relationships, clear-headed decision-making is not always possible. Several studies reveal that most of the time people enter into a relationship due to momentary inertia.

What we are trying to say is that couples often end up cohabitating without giving proper thought to compatibility. The initial attraction is quoted to be the most common reason for people getting into a relationship.

Well, we are not saying that it’s entirely wrong. Several couples have found the love of their lives, at the first sight. However, for a relationship to last longer, it is better to have a motive in mind.

For example, if you’re dating somebody for a fling then you must keep it that way. Or if you’re dating someone to find a life-long partner to marry, then you must proceed accordingly. This should help avoid any future conflicts and arguments.

Pay Attention To Their Needs

The second most important thing for a healthy and longer-lasting relationship is caring for each other. It not only means giving presents or buying what the other better half may need but also catering to physical and emotional needs.

Research suggests that many relationships fall apart due to a lack of time that partners spend together. You can indeed learn more from Promescent’s blog about the ways to boost compatibility. The idea is to spend as much couple time together as possible.

For example, you can plan bedtime activities together, or you can go out for a movie together. You can also indulge in travel experiences together.

The key to keeping the fire alive in any relationship is to make know and pay attention to what your partner needs. Be it emotional or physical affection, as already mentioned.

Communicate Effectively

In many cases, relationship experts explain that ineffective communication is the root cause of disputes. For example, you may forget to tell your partner that you’ll be out late for the night. And this could easily begin an argument.

Research shows that effective communication helps boost understanding between couples. Psychologically speaking, people cannot understand clearly what’s going on in your life or what you need or want.

Effective communication might not be as important for day-to-day tasks like shopping, but when it comes to relationships, it can either make or break the bonds. Regardless, it can help you get a clear idea about whether your date could be a prospective future partner or not.

You should be able to speak up your heart in a relationship.

Do Not Neglect Your Own Importance

Love is like cupid- blind- and cannot really see through the faults. When you really wish a relationship to last longer, you might compromise. In fact, you might compromise a lot.

Though this might not seem like a problem initially, down the line this may make you feel that you’re giving more than you’re getting from the relationship.

Studies reveal that one of the leading causes for breakups and divorce is when one partner neglects their own personal space. This not only makes the compromising partner feel neglected but also the other partner takes things for granted.

It is better to clear the boundaries from the start. And gradually explore the compromising grounds.


The dating game is where flings begin. But knowing when the fling turns out to be a love story can be a hazy idea. Clear communication and making love with your partner are some of the things that mould a relationship. However, what matters, in the long run, is individual preferences. It is often said that ‘love is supposed to change you’ and to some extent this statement is true.

On this note, we suggest you start meeting up with people and be confident about yourself. Because unless you don’t love yourself, you cannot expect others to love you.

*Photos by John Schnobrich