The unfortunate reality of life is that at some point, everyone loses a person they love. The popular phrase “grief is the price we pay for love” comes to mind here, and reminds us that the wonderful memories we shared with that person are why we care so much about their loss. This can be a very draining feeling regardless.
It’s hard to go through this process yourself, but at least you know where you stand. When it’s a friend going through such an experience, it can be very hard to know how to help. Endless requests to help out, to be present and to check on your friend are nice, but ultimately knowing when to let them have time to process the issue is important too.
For this reason, supporting a friend through their loss does take a little tact, but it can be achieved with care. In the long run, you will help lighten the load, ensure your friend heals healthily, and be that rock you hope to be for them. Let’s consider how to do that:
Be There To Help With Daily Planning
When someone is bereaved, it can be hard for them to keep up with their daily responsibilities. In some cases, this can even extend to tasks like cleaning or cooking. It can be worthwhile, then, to come and help if you can, not to interfere but to render any and all assistance you can, knowing they would do the same for you. If they need to be driven somewhere, or just to go out and enjoy a coffee in silence, then you can be that rock for them. It will only be a temporary effort, but it will be deeply appreciated.
Be A Shoulder To Cry On
It’s very easy to get into the habit of repeatedly asking what you can do, where you can be, and how you can help, but the truth is that your presence might be enough. It might not always be wanted, and that’s something to understand as families can be quite insular or wish for their own time, but if they want to see you, then it can be good to just offer that shoulder to cry on. You’d be surprised just how much of an effect it will have.
Give Your Genuine Condolences
Your friend knows that you care and you’re sorry for the loss, but it can be good to confirm this through passing along your warm sympathies, using a flower for funeral arrangement to add your sincere thoughts to the ceremony, or even write a handwritten letter to your friend about how you’re proud of them. It’s of course known that you care, but it’s always nice to express that, and allow them to feel that sense of love. Such a gesture can mean more than you know.
With this advice, we hope you can support your friend through their loss. We have no doubt you’ll do an excellent job, despite how challenging it can be. The least you’ll deserve is to have the gesture repaid in kind.