How to Help Your Foster Kids Adapt and Feel at Home

Posted October 27, 2022 by in Lifestyle
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Fostering is a great experience both for the parent and the kids. It allows the parents to enjoy the joys of parenthood and to make a difference in a child’s life, and it gives the child a loving and happy life that can help shape their future. What many people who want to become foster parents do not realize is that there is an adjustment period at the early stages of fostering a child. To make things easier for you, we have provided some tips to help things go smoothly.

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Make the Basics Available

The transition will be easier for your foster child if the essentials are available when they arrive. You have a lot of time to find out what your new foster child likes by talking to their social worker since the process can take up to 6 months. 

Some essentials to have include clothes, school supplies, food, personal care items, toys, food, and more. Even with these in place, it is always a good idea to ask your foster child what they prefer when they arrive at your home. 

Doing so starts the trust-building process, as they get to understand early on that you care about and will care for them. Additionally, they could be shy or fearful about asking for something, so taking the initiative as the adult could be incredibly helpful.

Create a Space for Them

Depending on the age of your foster child, they may already be craving some independence and privacy. All foster kids need their own bedroom, but you could let them choose things like bedding, allow them to hang pictures, paint the walls where possible, and include other things they like.

Since you will be receiving a fostering allowance, you will have the resources to create a space they will like. You can learn more about the fostering allowance for Sheffield foster parents at Fosteringpeople.co.uk, where you will also find additional resources, support, and help should you need them.

Open Lines of Communication

The uncomfortable truth is that you will be a stranger to your foster child for the first few days. They might not be comfortable opening up to a stranger, so it is important to let them know that you are open and available to talk.

Encourage activities like cooking or shared hobbies where you get an opportunity to talk to them. If they learn you are available and open and that they can trust you, you should see their walls come down.

However, do not expect deep conversations to start; instead, let things progress naturally over time.

Let Them Pick What to Call You

You might not think about it much, but it means a lot to a foster child if you give them the power and responsibility of deciding what they would like to call you, respectfully, of course. Some will be comfortable with formal titles while others will be comfortable with informal ones. Embrace it and do not try to force things one way or the other.


Welcoming a foster child into your home and making them feel comfortable is challenging for all parties involved. Take your time, keep things open and easy, and do things that let them know they are a part of your family now.