Humans are very sociable. Even the most introverted people can understand the benefit of human interaction and relationship building.
While some people may find it difficult to make friends at the best of times, the pandemic has made it near impossible for most people to take the plunge to get out there and meet new people as people choose to remain safe at home.
However, it is possible to get out there and meet new people to form new relationships with, in spite of the challenges that the world brings with it at this time.
Here are some tips about how you can still make friends during the pandemic:
Find Likeminded People
When it comes to making friends, finding people that you are compatible with is the main aim. The more compatible you are with people, the more likely you are to be able to form a great friendship.
The answer might be joining groups on social media linked to the things you enjoy doing. For example, if you enjoy cycling, then searching for ‘Cycling in <home town>’ into your chosen social media platform may return some results that will lead you to a pool of great people.
Alternatively, look online for phone chat lines. There are plenty out there if you want to reach a certain demographic of people from a similar background to yourself such as black phone lines aimed at African Americans. Using chat lines is a great way of connecting with people you don’t know and building friendships that way.
Go on ‘Safe’ Dates
Much like building romantic connections, you build friendships by communicating with the other person frequently enough to keep the interest alive.
As things begin to open up again it is worth arranging to meet people whose friendships are blossoming within a public space in order to get to know them while feeling safe.
Consider asking them to meet you for a coffee or to a gallery so you have things to talk about. Better yet, do the thing that connected you in the first place. For example, if you met in a cycling group, go for a bike ride and stop for a drink together to get to know each other.
Avoid Making Common Mistakes
People are very different and generalizations will only get you so far, but there are a few common pitfalls that should be avoided when it comes to making new friends. The first to remember is that you only get the opportunity to make a first impression. So when going to socialize, make sure you show your best attitude. Don’t waste your first impression on others by being cocky or boastful. People will believe that your over-confidence is your overall attitude and that may put them off.
Don’t be too guarded or overshare. When friendships are just starting out, you should build them on the premise that people are just getting to know you.
Most importantly, be yourself, it is the best way to be.
*Photos by Elly Fairytale