When you look back at everything that has happened to you in your life, you’ll notice something; although the challenges are what might stick out to you, there will have been many more good times than bad. Unfortunately, it is these bad times that can have such a detrimental effect on the rest of your life that the good times, when they come, seem less important.
Knowing how to cope when life throws challenges your way will help you to focus and reassess what is happening. Although it won’t stop the negative situations in life from happening, having good coping strategies in place may well help you to deal with them better.
Here are some ways you can do this:
Something that will never help you when you are trying to cope with life’s challenges is to compare what you are going through with anyone else’s situation. You should not undermine your own problems by telling yourself that someone else has it worse than you; there are no real degrees of ‘bad’ or ‘good’ in life.
Something like needing to speak to funeral directors Ealing to arrange the funeral of a loved one might be something you find difficult, whereas someone else might find it a simple task. This does not mean that your feelings are less valid – or more valid – than someone else’s.
There is never any need to compare your challenges with someone else’s. They are yours, and if someone else wouldn’t find them problematic, that’s nothing to do with how you feel. They are entirely separate things. By comparing, you will just make yourself feel worse because you’ll wonder why you’re not able to deal with something that someone else can.
Talk to A Professional
Talking to a professional such as a therapist can be a great way to cope with life’s challenges. Talking to anyone is good, as the old saying ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’ is certainly a truism. Yet it can be hard to let our feelings out to those we know. It makes us feel embarrassed or vulnerable, and it can lead to us bottling things up instead of letting them out, which, over time, can be a bad thing for our mental health.
Talking to a stranger who is trained in how to understand and respond is a good alternative. There will be no judgement, and they will simply be someone to whom you can tell anything and everything to, allowing your feelings to come to the fore and then learning how to deal with them.
Your physical health has a direct impact on your mental health, and vice versa. Everything is connected, so if you are healthy in a physical way, your mental health will be more robust. That doesn’t mean you won’t still find challenges in life upsetting or difficult to deal with, but it will mean you are more able to cope with them and find solutions more quickly.
Rather than eating badly and staying inside because it’s easier when you feel down it’s far better to eat healthy foods as these will make you feel more energetic and will give your body the nutrients it needs. Plus, getting outside and exercising will release chemicals and hormones in the body that will boost your mental health and give you better ideas on how to move forward.
*Photos by Jasmin Chew.